After trying to find a solution for my problem I came across this post and did it and I ended up deleting 1.5 million files.
It worked.
I started to log in from the play button to character in game in less the 2 minutes.
Will try for a few days as alot of the solutions i found only lasted so long


1. Go to Start, then click Run (Or hold down Windows Key and hit R)

2.Paste this in there, then hit enter:

%userprofile%\documents\ArcheAge\USER

3. DELETE the UDF Folder. This folder may have several HUNDRED THOUSAND files in it for some crazy reason. It may take a very long time to delete and may seem unresponsive. LET IT DO ITS THING. It took me 30 minutes on an SSD - Make sure you PERMANENTLY delete the files by holding down Shift when you right click the files to delete them, otherwise they'll go to your recycle bin and you get to wait twice next you empty your recycle bin.