Yeah I was in a similar boat, the grind killed me. But not in the sense that I didn't enjoy the grind, more so that I had more important things to attend to like school. With all the time I have to devote to school these days, keeping up with the grind became impossible for me and I slowly fell behind the pack. So at that point I found myself leaving my character online running macros while I studied and eventually came to the decision that I might as well stop playing since a computer was essentially playing for me.

So next best thing for me is EVE the skill grind is passive so falling behind doesn't happen and the community we had in DF could be replicated there fairly easy with how the game is set up with corporate owned stations and territory wars.

Darkfall was great how it was in my opinion, I just wasn't great for Darkfall at this current point in my life.